Divorce Coaching | SOS Success

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The benefits of a divorce coach

Personal Divorce Coaching is an individualised collaborative process for those who are contemplating divorce and are unsure what to do, as well as for those who are currently caught in the throes of a divorce.

SOS Success will help you navigate your divorce and manage the stress, fear, loneliness and conflict you may be feeling.

We offer emotional support, as well as the information you need, so you avoid the common pitfalls and make the best possible decisions now for your future.

And we help you prepare for working with other divorce professionals so in the long run you save time and money.

Through supportive guidance & personal coaching, SOS Success can help you with:

‘Should I stay or should I go’: Eyes Wide Open

Deciding whether to remain in or leave a relationship is one of the hardest and emotional decisions you will make. SOS Success will help you explore your options to make informed decisions around whether you should stay or leave, and help you fully understand the process of divorce and separation. We will help you visualise what you want in your current or future relationship, and develop a strategy to implement your decision with clarity and confidence in your future.

Assembling your Divorce Team & Getting Organized

SOS Success will help you utilise other professionals effectively and avoid unnecessary high legal costs by being better informed, prepared and organised. We can also refer you to the right legal and financial experts that suit your needs.

Communication Coaching

SOS Success will coach you to use effective and constructive communication strategies to have those difficult conversations with your spouse/ex spouse and children throughout the process.

Conflict Coaching

Research shows that ongoing parental conflict is detrimental to children's growth, development and mental health.

SOS Success will help you understand and reflect on your approach to conflict, help shift destructive reactions to more constructive responses, communicate effectively in conflict situations, and develop skills and conflict resolution strategies to minimise and manage disputes between you and your spouse/ex-spouse and children.

Moving past the sense of Overwhelm and Fear

SOS Success will provide you with tools and exercises to reduce stress and manage your emotions to help you move forward with your personal needs and goals with courage and confidence.

Divorce Decisions, Goals, and Actions

SOS Success will help you develop and clarify your separation/divorce options and goals based on your wants, needs and concerns. Together we will craft a personalised plan for you to take strategic action to move forward with confidence. We will help you avoid the common pitfalls and roadblocks so you make the best possible decisions now for your future.

SOS can refer you to the right experts that suit your needs during the process, including lawyers, financial experts, mediators, counsellors, parenting and wellbeing experts.

Post Divorce Support & New Beginnings

Whether it be returning to the workforce, dating, embarking on a new relationship, or being your best self, SOS can guide you through your choices so your future takes a positive path.

Financial Impact, Awareness and Support

SOS Success will help you understand the financial impact of your divorce and the steps and expert advice necessary for you to become a confident financial decision-maker. SOS Success can help you with one on one budgeting guidance and provide support with your decisions regarding relationship asset splitting.

Effective Co-Parenting

Children need certainty and stability. Your focus must be to ensure your children are impacted as little as possible.

SOS Success will guide you through your choices and help you develop a co-parenting strategy that is supportive and focused on the best interests of your children.

Preparing for Mediation or Settlement Discussions

SOS Success will help you prepare, plan for, confidently navigate and engage in the divorce mediation process or settlement discussions through coaching, education, support and skill building.

Enquire about one of our divorce packages below

Complimentary Discovery Session

This is an opportunity for us to get to know each other and for you to discover how SOS Success can support and help you navigate your personal journey moving forward.

Together we determine which of the SOS Success coaching packages suits your needs.

This is a 45 minute session.

Individual Session

One off coaching session for those who need support for immediate concerns and issues.

This option is useful if you are in the ‘should I stay or should I go phase’ and wish to explore your options with SOS Success. It can also be utilised to prepare for meetings with your other divorce team professionals.

This session is up to 90 minutes.

Personalised Separation Plan

An individualised plan to support you through the process of separation/divorce, from the initial decision, through the legal process, and beyond to your new positive chapter of life.

We provide you with a road map of your journey and a strategic plan going forward to ensure you get the positive sustainable outcomes you need to move on successfully.

Kelly Sutton

An experienced lawyer and qualified divorce coach, Kelly offers a personal, unbiased and supportive approach to coaching you through the challenges of the divorce process.

Kelly leads you through the steps for making the big decisions and setting goals for your future goals while saving you significant cost and time.

“I’m here to reduce your stress, fear and sense of overwhelm so you can create your new post-divorce life.”

Divorce Coaching Frequently Asked Questions

What is a Divorce Coach?

A divorce coach is someone with professional training who can work with you to identify and attain your goals, and overcome obstacles in your divorce or separation so that you are able to make the best possible decisions for your future.

What are the benefits of divorce Coaching?

+Creates a non-judgemental partnership

+Enhances organisational skills

+Provides emotional support

+Improves communication skills

+Less costs

Non judgemental partnership

You work with an unbiased advocate and experienced coach who is your voice of reason and fosters resilience through self-discovery. A coach assists you in managing the divorce process and supporting you through the challenges. You gain a sounding board and thinking partner and have someone on your side to brainstorm ideas with. A coach assists in educating you about the process of divorce and how to create a strong team of professionals and expert advisors who work for you.

Enhanced organisational skills

There is a lot to work through and organise with a divorce. A coach helps you deal with the overwhelm by breaking the process down into small manageable steps. We work through a forward-thinking, goal-orientated and step by step process for you. A coach guides you to organise both your thoughts and the paperwork (parenting plans, budgeting plans, property settlement negotiations, preparation for mediation or court). A coach helps you to clarify what is important in your divorce and assists you to understand and avoid the common pitfalls. A coach encourages you to define your personal goals and to devise strategies and a plan to empower and fulfill those goals.

Provides emotional support

A coach prepares you mentally for the rollercoaster of emotions that might be experienced and helps you develop a sense of control during a challenging time. A coach assists you to focus on thinking about how to solve the challenge, not the challenge itself, and builds your strength so you can move forward and take effective action.

Improves communication skills

You learn to make more informed and less emotional decisions. You will become a credible and effective communicator so you are heard and can navigate and effectively participate in your divorce and as a co-parent.

Less cost

A coach assists in lowering legal and other professional fees as you have moved beyond your emotional story and are fully prepared for the business of divorce.

How does a divorce coach differ from a therapist?

A therapist will delve into underlying emotional issues, perhaps issues that arose from trauma or early family experiences, that are keeping you from experiencing optimal mental health functioning.

A divorce coach is focused on helping you manage the broad range of emotions and experiences that surface during a divorce, will provide resources, and guide you through important decisions you will need to make for yourself and your children. A divorce coach is not a therapist.

If I already have a lawyer, why do I need a divorce coach?

Your lawyer is there to answer legal questions, draft and review agreements, present your case to the opposing party and if necessary, the Judge. Should you go to court, a lawyer must comply with discovery rules and court deadlines and be prepared to back up the necessary facts with admissible evidence.

Your lawyer is not specially trained to deal with issues beyond their legal responsibility, and may not have the available time, skill or demeanour to help you manage your emotions and to help you sort other issues like co-parenting, budgeting, settlement and life goals. That’s where a divorce coach comes in. A divorce coach does not provide legal advice.

How much does it cost?

Investing in support from a divorce coach reduces the amount of time you need to spend dealing with a lawyer, reducing your legal fees. Legal fees will be higher for customers whose situation means they struggle with their feelings, emotions, communicating with the other party and setting goals. Working with both a divorce coach and your lawyer means you will have a smoother and faster divorce process and you’ll spend less overall.

But I don’t have time for coaching sessions!

Coaching is a flexible process that fits easily into your schedule. Sessions can be in-person, over the phone or on Zoom. Your coach can be available to support you at short notice. Sessions are one-on-one and always confidential.

Have other questions?

Contact SOS Success Ltd